Stretch marks. Flabby stomach. Bags under your eyes. Needy baby. Sick baby. No sleep. And postpartum depression. The list goes on.
I am now six months postpartum. By now, as you have read, the last six months have been the most challenging and most fulfilling.
Being a new momma has been harder than I could ever imagine. Some days end with me waiting for my husband to sleep so I can silently cry it out. Some days when I rock my very fussy baby in hopes that he’ll finally fall asleep, I find myself silently ugly crying in the dark trying hard to stop my tears from dropping on his sweet face.
I’m so tired. I am depleted, overwhelmed and at times I feel so lost and lonely. But, I take a deep breath and tell myself… “I AM NOT DOING IT WRONG. MOMMA LIFE IS HARD!! And take another deep breath in, and let it all out. Now get yourself together because the baby is crying.”
The thing is, us mommas are too hard on ourselves. We all do this massively incredible task of growing and giving birth to a baby and then expect to snap back to being even “more” than we were before, and meet all these expectations we have created and engraved in our heads. We need to really start thinking and talking about the impact pregnancy has on us. Is it wonderful? Absolutely. But it’s really hard.
So, in other words that means, IT AIN’T OUR FAULT!!! Good news is, there is help out there. People to talk to. People who will support us. We just gotta ask for help, which is easier said than done. I don’t know about y’all, but I am horrible, and kind of terrified to ask for help. It literally kills me to, something I know I need to work on.
New motherhood demands more than we ever thought we could give. But I know it will get easier. Right now it’s just really hard. For all you mommas out there, you are not alone in this. Navigating postpartum depression is hard, but we must tell ourselves, that self care is not a luxury, it is a necessity.
So my wish for all us mommas, is to understand and see how amazing we are. How amazing our bodies are and treat ourselves like the momma goddesses that we all are.
Remember, we’ve got this.