DEAR MOMMAS, MUST READ.
Motherhood is already hard that the last thing I want to deal with is drama. And yet here I am writing about this issue. But seriously? Can the momma wars end already? I already don’t have enough time in the day to do everything I need to get done, that dealing with this nonsense is definitely something I don’t have time for and I know neither do you. Are people that bitter or does it stem from something else?
Before I go any deeper into this topic, let me just start by saying, Thank you, Mommas. To the stay-at-home mommas, the working mommas like myself, and the mommas who work from home with your babies, thank you for all that you do. I know from experience, sometimes we don’t get that validation we need and we don’t get thanked enough, and partly why momma life is so lonely sometimes. So I am thanking all of you because y’all are momma goddesses.
I think the stem of this unnecessary hate comes from two things; insecurity and when you deny that your insecure and instead you start to brag that you’re this superior momma and ain’t nothing bringing your house down. Listen y’all, and I am speaking from my experience as a momma, ain’t no momma has it all figured out and lives a perfect life. And if you know mommas who claim they do, well not calling them a liar, but they are probably not telling the truth or motherhood has not humbled them in anyway. Either way, those mommas don’t have it all figured out. I wish motherhood was like a perfectly baked cheesecake, but instead motherhood is like a delicious sloppy joe sandwich: really messy but so savory. Yes, I just compared motherhood to food. It’s lunch time and I am hungry.
Also, you know what else it can be? It can also come from envy. I know I’m not alone when I say this, but sometimes I envy the stay-at-home mommas. And I am sure that there are stay-at-home mommas that envy working mommas like myself. We don’t have to deny those feelings. It’s alright to feel those things, we’re only human. But you don’t need to let “envy” grow into this hate or needing to compare your life to other mommas and making them feel like they are less of a momma.
WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER. I REPEAT, WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM. No matter our differences, we are so lucky to be part of this tribe called Mommas. We share the same purpose, and if you forgot what that is, it’s to raise good, competent humans. To love our babies, protect them, teach them, believe in them, support them, and nurture them. To me, being a momma means being a selfless and loving human who sacrifices my needs and wants for my baby’s needs and wants.
Let’s not fall into the society we live in now where criticizing women is okay. Let’s be better than that. Let’s refuse to engage in this momma war, arguing over who has it harder and who’s a better momma. We are all good mommas and motherhood is hard for all of us. We are all doing the best that we can every single day. I know that as a momma, it is up to us to make the best choices for our families. Let’s just stop the hate, stop the judgement.
All of us mommas do many countless little things every day that make us all loveable and worthy of praise. So if you’re reading this. You are a warrior. You are a momma goddess. Be humble, be selfless, and spread love.